Be There for the Elderly

It is now been 8 months since my mother passed away. At the age of 89 the day she left us did not come as a surprise, but of course it was still a great loss. Apart from being the mother of my brothers and me and the favourite “Oma” of all her grandchildren, she was an amazingly positive and inspiring woman, who left a void that will always remain. Living far away from her my visits weren’t as frequent as I would have wanted, but I did what I could to keep in touch: daily telephone calls as long as that was possible, and later I wrote letters and postcards to her.
All around me, members of the older generation leave one by one, and that reminds me of how important it is to care for the elderly, be they close family members or people I meet where I live. As so often in small villages, the average age here in Mase is quite high: several of my friends and acquaintances could almost be my parents. I highly enjoy their company, the peace they emanate, their broad knowledge and, yes, their wisdom. Spending time with my older friends helps me to slow down and be patient and I am always grateful for being reminded about that.
I am well aware that the older people are, the more you need to seize the occasion to spend time with them or simply to let them know that you think of them, so I grab each occasion. If I’m not in a hurry to catch the bus I always stop for a chat when I meet my elderly friends in the street or in the grocery store and returning from my hikes I sometimes do surprise visits to them. At first they might be embarrassed by not having cleaned up their living room or showing up in an old sweater, but once they realise that I couldn’t care less about such things, they’re always happy to have some company and someone to talk to about their worries or problems or to simply share a cup of coffee with.
I’m not much of a “telephone person”; instead I’ve decided to write at least two cards or letters per week, one of them to an elderly person. It’s not just because I look forward to receiving cards or letters in my own letterbox, but simply the pleasure of knowing that a little written greeting will make the receiver happy, especially if it’s an elderly person.
Make a list of all the elderly/lonely people you know and decide to call, write, or – best – visit one of them within the next two weeks. Perhaps you can even make it into a
recurring event?
Your reaching out will be very appreciated and you will make a real difference in their lives. As they will in yours ☺

Don’t wait too long to visit

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2 Responses to Be There for the Elderly

  1. Lovely thoughts. Before we know it, we are the elderly.
    Heather Brack

    • Sabinas says:

      So true, Heather! And – they have so much to teach us. Patience and slowing down, for example 🙂 Thanks for your comment!/Sabina

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